Originally Posted by TruckerPete
My boyfriend recently admitted to me that he's trying to get over some guilt at being "the other man" in my life.
This feeling still rises up in me from time to time...I.E. recently. It is definitely influenced by external reaction to my relationship whether real or imagined. Who the hell wants to be seen as "the other guy" or the guy who is ruining some one's marraige?
That being said, poly meets different needs than an affair in my experienced opinion of both.
I get why people would want affairs and why others want poly. I don't agree with cheating but I do get it. My biggest beef is when you combine poly with cheating in any way. To me if it isn't all out in the open with everyone, you're cheating either directly or by proxy.