Originally Posted by jkelly
I don't think those two things are compatible. Bob is expecting to be married to someone who is in love with him and him alone. That's not you. It's not fair to him to let him enter a marriage under false pretenses. If you give up your relationship with John for the sake of going through with the wedding and being married to Bob you'll be heartbroken. Bob deserves a non-heartbroken new bride; someone who is thrilled to be entering into a marriage with him.
Everything above. You're trapping yourself and your fiancÚ. That is not healthy or fair to anyone.
Be strong and forget "what other people will think" this is too important to ignore.