I think, if i am to understand correctly about your relationship being new (I hope I have the right person here).... that there might be a need to back way up, have some honest discussions with all involved... including EVERYONE. Then move forward to something a bit more realistic and tangible. Perhaps things went a little too fast into "family" mode without people getting to know each other and before everything was out of the bag about who you all are... Rome wasn't built in a day and fantasies of everything being love and roses are just that. Fantasies. That doesn't mean to say that things can't move forward, but we all come with baggage and that needs to be respected and worked through about how to handle that baggage...
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