So he is home, he made it very clear to her our concerns (more mine it seems) that she is married and she is secondary, that our life, our family is FIRST. She understands that and doesn't want to change her life. She said that she has had 8 affairs in the last 10 years ( or something like that) and has never been caught as her job is ideal that she can just say she has to step out of the office for a few hours.
I still don't like it, it feels like he is trying to justify having a relationship with her on the fact that she has gotten away with it for so long. I want him to find an ongoing relationship and hate seeing him struggle but I am just really unsure of this whether she believes she won't be caught or not.