I know I won't feel so alone now that I found this forum.
I would be fine with it if she would talk to her husband, and then the marriage either ends or he allows a similar relationship as we have. I would say she is probably staying for the kids, which is so wrong, kids are not dumb and will pick up on things.
I feel bad for my husband as I know he has such a hard time meeting a woman he could be with and is frustrated that as a woman I had an easy time...well for the most part.
I will search the forums a bit more while I wait for him to come home