Originally Posted by ellie
I think it was more open. He didn't tell me until he actually slept with the other women. Yes you did read correctly he gave me and his secondary the option to be be open but didn't want us to take it. He said it was his way of testing us.
I did end up calling his secondary to tell her what's he's doing as she is also a mono (long story short, she didn't know about me until very recently, he refused to tell her). But I guess I look like the "crazy ex". I can't believe I wasted a year and a half on something which I thought was a loving relationship.
1. He wants open communication but he didn't give it.
2. Again he set you up to fail and he's a douche for it.
3. What yall had wasn't really a poly relationship of any sort; he just used that to cover his cheating ass.
4. You're better off.