Wow, i've been really busy today so was blown away with all the discussion this attracted. It is reassuring that most of you do seem able to be satisfied. So hopefully once Z finds what he's looking for in terms of "friends" he too will feel content. Right now he is looking in some wrong places and I find myself getting hurt along with him. We are starting to look at some poly groups so hopefully this will turn things around.
JKelly"I'm not sure how to answer this question. If I somehow knew right now that I would never fall in love with anyone new for the rest of my life, I'd be sad about that. It'd imply that I was going to spend the rest of my life meeting people who I don't find loveable! "
This brought up some sadness for me because this is exactly the way I used to feel when I was in a bad marriage. Now I have a great relationship I just don't feel this anymore so while my brain knows that others can still feel like this in good relationships my heart still cries (sometimes).