Originally Posted by myelsewhere
Where did you move here from, if you don't mind me asking?
I moved to Kansas from Iowa. I thought small town Iowa was backwards--which it is--though small town Kansas has given me a whole new respect for Iowa.
I imagine the shift from the populous coast to small town Kansas is more of a mind bender.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.