Originally Posted by lovemaggy
how do you find someone who doesn't mind being considered second best?
I think it's not about being "second best". I'm a second girlfriend, and I NEVER feel as though I'm unimportant. It's just a matter of finances, and time. He shares his life with her as a spouse, and they have a teenager at home. I get to go on a date or hang out with the family, but I live my own life, and I like it. I am my own "primary".
If you treat second partners as though they are worthwhile, chances are they'll enjoy the experience, IMHO.