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Old 07-29-2010, 04:01 PM
EugenePoet EugenePoet is offline
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If you are interested in each having a secondary partner -- ie, each of you being in a vee -- then that brings up other dynamics. Your secondaries may or may not have a primary of their own; their needs will be different depending on what other relationships they have and what their personalities are like.

I know several people who are secondaries to a married or primary-committed poly. They have some issues, mostly around needs. But of COURSE there are issues, there are ALWAYS issues! Nobody can ever expect a perfect fit right out of the box. That works for precision-engineered industrial equipment but not for human beings.

Maybe don't overthink? Imagine what might be possible with different people -- married, single, quasi-committed -- but look for the right person, heart and mind first. Then ask how it will work with that person given their other relationships or lack thereof.
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