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Old 07-28-2010, 08:05 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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It sounds to me like you're doing just fine, dealing with what's come along and working for reasonable accommodation. She married you and you have every reason to expect her to act like she married you.

I'm troubled by the BF's wife not knowing. That, in the game polyamory, simply isn't cricket. AT this point, he's not poly and your wife is simply enabling him to cheat, which also doesn't really qualify as poly. At this point, I don't really see any poly behavior from them--just bad monogamy--though you seem to be adjusting to living in a poly tangle as a mono decently.

There's something rich about that situation--you, the mono partner adjusting to the idea of a poly partner while the supposed poly folk are simply bad monogamists. Sheesh.

In any case, keep your stick on the ice. Something good may come of this as yet.
When speaking of various forms of ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.

Last edited by AutumnalTone; 07-29-2010 at 03:13 PM. Reason: gender issue
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