Originally Posted by jbird
Now, everything I know about polyamory I learned from Dan Savage. .
Dan Savage is a smart guy but he is not exactly poly friendly as far as having faith in it's sustainability. I'm glad you are seeking more information. My advice is short and completely from my point of view. Don't move in with her. Establish yourself on your own two feet in a new location and see how poly pans out for you. If you move in you may amplify the sense of being trapped.
Not only that but she has just come out as poly and has no idea if she will be able to effectively have multiple meaningful relationships. Being poly doesn't make you good at it, it takes work and experience.
You both need to gain your footing in my opinion.