This is actually a very good discussion to have. The reason I say this is because it brings up a question I have had for some time...has anyone else ever had the problem where because you are married that the "new" partner, reguardless of equality, seems to bring up the "because you're married" thing whenever things don't go a certain way or when things seem to be going a different way then expected? Or uses the "you are married" line regularly? also, I found a site where you can get ceremonies for triad or poly unions (tho I must confess that I would have to search for it again
) but alas, those unions aren't recognized by governmental bodies which is not right because in my opinion people should be able to marry whomever they want without fear of retribution from the government who is supposed to protect us not punish us.