I don't like secrets. I also don't need to feel the need to kiss & tell.
I'm very open with my close friends. I tell them what's going on in my life. I don't tell them about what's going on in my husband's life unless it affects me and I need support.
I don't understand why you'd want to keep it from your wife when you talk to her boyfriend. Your relationship with her should be comfortable enough that it's not a big deal to mention it. I worry that if you can't communicate that much, you'll have trouble when something big comes up.
“As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.” —bisexualbaker