Originally Posted by sdguitarguy
Let's not be so harsh. There is a lot of ambiguity in this situation and communication is not completely open. Let's face it, they are young. And it happened in her presence which completely changes the dynamic. Calling this "cheating" is a little over the top. It seems more like stretching the boundaries and Tomte is partly surprised at her own reaction.
Give it all some time and don't over-react.
I am not over reacting. If tomte feels his friend cheated with his gf...he was a jerk.
Being young doesn't excuse you from having some sense of responsibility. Being drunk doesn't excuse it either.
I was once the person who was the one being cheated with. I was being a selfish jerk. Period. I deserved all the backlash I got for what I did.