Originally Posted by Ariakas
The friend, I would have a harder time with. He didn't know, and did this. He was cheating with the intent of cheating...hes a dick, not saying dropping him as a friend, but thats not very good friend behaviour.
Let's not be so harsh. There is a lot of ambiguity in this situation and communication is not completely open. Let's face it, they are young. And it happened in her presence which completely changes the dynamic. Calling this "cheating" is a little over the top. It seems more like stretching the boundaries and Tomte is partly surprised at her own reaction.
Give it all some time and don't over-react.