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Old 07-26-2010, 06:03 PM
Ariakas Ariakas is offline
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Could she have done this to see what it would be like? To test the waters? Or even moreso, test your waters? You say you want to be poly. but hopefully you mean for your partners to be open too

You have a right to be upset about her cheating, but what was the reasoning behind her cheating? You might have told her the surface about poly and maybe she misunderstood. You might want to communicate that and see where it goes. She might have just done what she thought you mean as poly

Figure out her motives, and realize you have a reason to be upset but be prepared to discuss it openly and honestly

The friend, I would have a harder time with. He didn't know, and did this. He was cheating with the intent of cheating...hes a dick, not saying dropping him as a friend, but thats not very good friend behaviour.

Cheers

Ari

Last edited by Ariakas; 07-26-2010 at 08:15 PM.
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