I expect that any potential partners have to respect and appreciate the importance of my husband to me. They need to be able to be friendly with my family and accept my devotion to my children.
That's for sure my FIRST criteria. I don't want a "segregated" situation. I'm ok with us not sharing lovers-that's fine. But if I have a lover (or he does) I want that person to be at least friendly with both of us.
So far-that hasn't been an issue.