I just want her to gain from this too. I think she was happy for a while and that was good. Now she is jealous and insecure. I dont like to think of her like that and it seems to set me off too.
Like I said, there has been a lot of time where we function as a polite V. I spend time with them both, do activities with her and he comes to see me. (He lives with her).
Does she need or want my friendship? I dont know. Its hard to tell. Did she spend time with me cus she enjoyed it or because she was towing the line. Is that set up better than this? It seems the more me and her are divided the worse we both feel.
So I suppose thats the answer. I have to put the work in to keep the peace and make the best of it. An awkward friendship is better than division.