Originally Posted by rabbit
I'm interested to see the responses to this. It seems that some people identify as 100% poly or 100% mono and are very sure about it, whereas I personally feel like I would LIKE a poly arrangement but don't NEED it to be happy.
So I guess my answer to your question is that I don't know really how to identify (monoflexible?) but that for me I'm somewhere in the gray area.
There has been a discussion of a poly scale. Like the kinsey scale. To better describe some peoples place in relationships. Two methods to that thinking
mono <-> non-monogamy
then the second one could be
swinger <-> poly
For example I am a resounding 6 (non monogamist) on the first scale and a 4 or 5 on the poly one.
...its been tossed around in a few variations. Credit to the first thought I believe goes to idealist