Originally Posted by Indigomontoya
From a secondary (and primary) viewpoint, is it wrong of me to think that as the primary I am alotted more privileges/rights in the poly relationship than a secondary?
IM or "R"
As a long term secondary I see nothing wrong with your expectations. I assume you contribute across a much broader scale to the relationship as well as the family/household. You should be comfortable in feeling this way. You're putting more into the equation than just emotional/intimate time and energy.
Everyone should be treated fairly in all areas of life. Fair, does not mean the same
however. I treat the people who work for me fairly, but I don't treat them all the same. Some are very professional workers who give more than is required of them so I reward them with time off or whatever. Others just do their job and so they receive their pay. Both are treated fairly, both are treated differently.