Welcome Grace! This is a great support network for you. You will find info and differing opinions, but most importantly a place to bond and find understanding. Best of luck in your relationship/s.
One of the lessons of a poly relationship is how to handle all emotions, not just jealousy.
And looking at those emotions, and what lies beneath them...
And how to deal with difficult emotions.
There are some amazing, difficult lessons... but there's growth in learning -- and you can apply this lesson to all emotions- not just jealousy.
Eventually, you learn to enjoy the solitary times, and to find new interests, and to grow as a person in ways you never imagined.
Welcome to the journey.
Claire this made me smile...you are so right, the solitary times or even just the times away from particular loved ones are so important to your own personal development. Articulated very well lady!