Um, there isn't even anyone, yet, and as I said while we're distance probably won't be.
I'm scared that there'll be someone I can't get along with but I'll have to tolerate them, letting them in to a part of my life I consider very intimate, and have no choice in the matter beyond stay or leave. The open door is a bit intimidating, I don't know who's going to come in, but I don't want to slam the door in their faces and would like to make them feel at home.
I feel it's a lot of pressure and a lot to accept about something that's a complete unknown to me. And if I can't deal with it then I'm doomed. I know that's true for most things in a relationship but this is a whole other person, not my lover.
It came up not because someone's there, but in conversation, by the way.