Originally Posted by DavidWebb
- we struggle with intimacy our entire 15+ year relationship (due to the reasons in the op), but now it feels like it's all 'hey I am poly'... so some guy can come along, woo you for a couple months and now you're locking lips with him.
Franklin of xeromag discusses this here: http://tacit.livejournal.com/291799.html
. I found it useful to read when I was thinking along the lines above.