So, it's in the works, and will probably happen in the next month or so. My fiancÚ, R, said he would like to meet A, my new interest, when we settle (ie, when crazy NRE is under control).
I brought it up with A, and he agreed immediately. I was a pleasantly surprised by his ease with the idea.
A identifies as mono, not to mention he's the first person I would classify as a very real possibility to become a SO since R and I have opened up. R is still dealing with some jealousy and insecurity, but doing so well, and I am so proud of him!! A puts us ahead of himself, but with the promise that if his needs aren't being met, he will say something. I know he won't stick around if he's truly mono, looking for "the one", but I'd like to be as much as I can for as long as possible. He would also like this to be long-term.
So, basically I'm petrified of them meeting. As you can probably tell, I really like A and can see myself falling for him. And obviously, I love R, so ... ack! I'm sure they will get along well because they have similar interests and definitely the same sense of humour. So long as R can manage to set aside the fact that they're both sleeping with me!
What does everyone else do for their first meet up? I'm thinking a neutral location will be the best place, but part of me wonders, should I be there? What sorts of questions should I ask the boys beforehand to prepare and make sure everyone is comfy? Ground rules? What has everyone else experienced?
I know that every situation is unique, but all experiences would be helpful!! I'd even like to hear worst case/best case scenarios.
I'm nervous as hell, but want to be prepared, so that I don't influence them! Haha. I'm guessing coffee would be a bad idea.