Originally Posted by JRiverMartin
That, too, is false. Jealousy and fear and possessiveness... are symptoms of insecurity, doubt, and fear of lack. That's all they are. They surely are not symptoms of love. Love is much better without them.
This is not meant to an argument but just another viewpoint that I hear from many.
Selfishness, neediness, and putting yourself first are also not symptoms of love and to a large number of people in the straight and queer communities that is what polyamory amounts to.
Wanting multiple loves/lovers can also be attributed to a degree of insecurity as well.
There are too sides to every coin.