HMA-I remember that sort of questioning whenever I would go out in public with my married couples. It was irritating, especially since in both of them the wife and I looked like we could be related. You can imagine the horror on people's faces the moment they understand the level of intimacy of the triad and then try to wrap their brain around the assumed family connection.
Mohegan- I would have a very hard time if I didn't relate to my husband's potential SOs, or if I felt uncomfortable with them on a personal level. In fact we had a discussion on this fact last night. I don't have enough time to get into it before I have to leave for work, but it will be my next topic.
Claire- Thanks for visiting my OKC site! It was nice to get a note from you.