Originally Posted by distraughtinNJ
I do not want to lose him. I connected with HIM and want to have a relationship with HIM. I did not sign on to have to have share him with his wife.
My understanding is that when you began your relationship he was in the process of leaving his wife. This implies you were prepared and intending to enter a monogamous relationship. If that is the case than I see his changing his mind as a breach of the expected dynamic and an extreme one at that.
If he follows through with rebuilding his marriage then based on your own statement you are probably not going to be healthy in this. Your choice is clear to me.
"I did not sign on to have to have share him with his wife".
Let him go.