Originally Posted by Derbylicious
When you haven't really participated in any way before it's a little hard to know where your limits are. I have so much to learn and I don't even feel like I have the tools to know what to ask.
well you just defined one up there ^^
Experiment, have fun with it and communicate clearly your fears and if you feel a limitation.
I will give you an example. I was more experienced and far more aggressive in bondage play than Pengrah had ever experienced. Our first experience together was to much for her, she had to create a hard limit for being completely bound. Limitations come with a caring partner and experimenting...
That brings up an interesting point in my own head. I wonder how many people were introduced to bdsm in a manner that turned them off, without patience. hmmmm...