It's funny. My poly gf and I have been together 18 months, deeply in love and committed.
When she met 3 of my sweeties (one at a time) she had no specific questions for them. We just all chatted as friends. And when I met a guy she dated for a while, same thing. Just general chat about science, music, okc, various life experiences, cookies, whatever.
It's not like you're her dad and the guy has come asking for her hand.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37