Originally Posted by redpepper
After three years of being together should you not be able to bring anything up?!
With a statement like that it could be you might have some communication issues to work out for starters.
What do you mean when you say you wonder about a donor for your baby... are either of you incapable of creating a child? confused.
I think you are jumping the gun a bit here with the baby. Seriously, just work on the relationship part. If you think that the guys you have invited into your bedroom are just fuck toys, you have a long way to go.
Do a whole lot of reading on here and elsewhere, suggest you do some reading together, offer her some links and start talking about it... just start... tell her, "hey, I found this forum on line about polyamory, I'll send you the link. It's pretty interesting." See what happens with that.
Thanks, that was only mildly offensive. My communication skills are pretty great actually, but I guess me wanting to spare my girlfriend's feelings and risk doing harm to my relationship of three years is just retarded because I mean, being in a relationship for three years obviously means that I should just flat out tell my girlfriend that I want to bring a man into our relationship and shift the whole dynamic. It's not like it's a life changing decision or anything considering I am not just looking to date around--I'm looking for a family down the road.
Well, I guess I didn't make it clear enough but yea, I guess my girlfriend and I have some problems creating a baby. Probably mostly because we only produce the XX chromosomes. We only produce eggs. We are both female. We are a lesbian couple.
Our relationship is perfect how it is right now and I know she's happy with it. Although I want to share this relationship with someone else for more support, more affection, more intense sex, and because I personally feel it's best for a child to have more than one or two parents, doesn't mean that she feels the same way and I'm afraid that bringing it up could possibly cause issues that and I'm honestly a little scared to rock the boat in such a great relationship.
But thanks. I appologize if I sound a little annoyed, but yea, it's a little offensive for you to accuse anyone of--even after being in a relationship or married for twenty years--of being able to bring up the subject of bringing a stranger into your relationship.
That's only kind of a big deal.
I said that our past sexual relationships with others has just been sex. Obviously. That's kind of how threesomes start and end. So I don't understand what you mean, but alright.
I think it's kind of silly but ah well good night.