Is that a good test? I have three answers for that:
3) Oh, hell no!
I'm not even able to provide a cogent explanation right now as I'm fuming over the bad behavior--I'd likely get lost in castigating him.
I hope somebody else weighs in on this soon. I'll try to get back to it later with a clearer head.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.