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Old 07-03-2010, 12:09 AM
jkelly jkelly is offline
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Originally Posted by dancingalone View Post
Stubborn,independant, accustomed to making all the decisions
I assure you that there are people out there interested in dating people with those qualities.

Originally Posted by dancingalone View Post
I'm the friend that no one hangs out with unless they need me to fix something or help them thru something.
Is this really true? If I didn't hang out and socialise with friends regularly, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have much luck meeting people to date. Maybe it's time to go looking for a different circle of friends. Are there any poly- social activities in your area? Is there someone whose opinion you respect that you could ask why your friendships tend to work out this way?

Originally Posted by dancingalone View Post
I'm just not some simpery little female that sleeps around. Unfortunately, that's all that seems to get any attention.
I assure you that many women can flirt very succesfully, and get attention from prospective partners, without simpering or being little, and that many men are interested in dating someone who has not had many partners.

Originally Posted by dancingalone View Post
I know better than to let idiots make me feel less than I am but obviously I've got to do something differently.
Do you have a clear idea of what kind of person would make a good partner for you, or how to avoid "idiots", in other words?

I think that the good news for you is that, on average, poly- men are more likely to appreciate independence in their partners.
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