Damn I just wrote a post and lost it.
Check out other threads on here. We have addressed this several times before. It might be helpful.
I think if you don't tell her in your asking for a date you would lose the chance at an honest relationship of integrity and respect. I would think twice about anyone letting me become interested in them, investing in them and then hearing they have a girlfriend. Why would you want to invest in someone and then find she isn't interested. Not a good idea in my opinion.
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