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Old 06-29-2010, 09:50 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Kansas City Metro
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Welcome aboard.

Your fears of falling in love with new partners and out of love with current ones are common. They speak to a wholly monogamous view, however, as the underlying assumption is one of romantic love being a zero-sum game, that you only have X amount of love and if you give that to one person, you have none for anybody else.

I suspect you'll be quite relieved to find out that love is not a zero-sum game--that you're able to love more than one person at a time without losing any existing relationships. It's a whole 'nother world when that realization hits.
When speaking of various forms of ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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