To me compromise is something I do that leads to recentment. If I can't find it in my heart to have compersion and good feelings about a situation then I've compromised and it still needs to be looked at in order to find a balance. Yes it sounds like you compromised Schrodner, but to me anything to do with money is a compromisable. Anything to do with feelings and emotions in a poly situation should not be. There should never be any twinge of "I've given something up." It just builds and becomes larger than it need be in my experience. Unless its temporary and a work in progress.
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