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Old 06-29-2010, 06:09 AM
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Originally Posted by Propast View Post
But I see nothing about handling Guilt - that worm in your stomach telling you you did something wrong, even if you're pretty sure you are behaving well.
In my history, guilt is a sign that something is wrong. Not necessarily that I actually did something wrong, but maybe I had devious intentions or didn't say something that maybe I should have.

A story about S: As the hinge in our V, S has always spent a lot of time worrying about D and I: are we both getting the time we need, is someone going to get mad if she cuddles more with one, is one of us unhappy? Even though it should be each of our responsibilities to ensure we are happy, she seems to carry the whole load of guilt. This even hits her when things are going well: Her guilt (fear of hurting one of us) often shapes and overly-constrains her actions
Is that guilt? It sounds more like anxiety and taking on too much burden, to me.
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.

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