Thank you so much for sharing!! I think your story has moved so many people on this forum. I hope it helps to know that there are so many people supporting you and wishing the best for you!! I agree about finding a therapist. I was fortunate to find a good therapist and I saw her regularly for a few years and then occassionally for many years after that.
Because of the fact that you are really needing to "find yourself", I would suggest that you find your own therapist and he finds one for himself. The individual therapists can assist you guys with your "couple" work.