I think a lot of that is fear of commitment. Someone who is cheating isn't going to try to get you to commit to them.
I have some fear of commitment right now since I've been burned so many times with the "NM, I'm not poly-compatible" thing.
Originally Posted by Ariakas
I do find people generally open to open relationships, but almost be fearful of poly. Its almost akin to cheating. If a girl thinks I am hiding something and cheating, I can find pickups easily. The minute they know my wife exists and knows...its not as exciting.