Originally Posted by Quath
It seems she gets her thrills from cheating itself. Agreeing to be non-monogamous may only be treating the symptoms. I would be more worried that she is self-destructive and does things on purpose to hurt the relationship.
I get the idea that she isn't just after the sex, or even just after other relationships. I get the idea that she's addicted to the thrill of the forbidden. I don't see how actually doing poly relationships or open or swinging would solve that problem, as the knowledge and consent involved won't provide the same thrill.
My hallucination, of course, and the only way to find out would to be via serious therapy.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.