Well, you have a lot of interesting relationship going on. A thought that strikes my mind is the expression "the two shall become one." In other words, when you marry in many real senses you become two halves of one person, yet each a complete person as well. I know that sounds very old fashioned.
The only one who can answer this question is you: for your pair-bond to be good and healthy - AND FOR YOU TO BE HAPPY IN IT AS YOU SHOULD BE - what has to happen?