Ah ha she's been abused. I would like to wager that she hasn't loved these men at all but is looking to be loved. The pursuit is part of that.
I think you owe her an apology about wanting to watch. You added to her trauma with that one. The woman is obviously damaged and needs help if you ask me. That doesn't mean you fix it. She does! With your support if you are able.
The first lesson in poly is to love yourself and she doesn't. She can't possibly love others without that. Each man has added to her trauma and its become an obsession to find love. No one will be enough until she loves herself first.
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