I was trying to reply to SC"s post while reading the post about Eckhart Tolle (over in the spirituality section)and my pain-body got activated big time. In the end I just had to leave it. Even now, the next morning I feel it all coming up again. The pain is around leaving a long term relationship, which is what i did, and believe me the reality of it can be a lot heavier than you would ever think if you haven't done it.
When I say cheat what I mean is that I think it's cheating if you avoid dealing with things in one relationship because you have another one you can take refuge in if the need arises. An example of this could be if you have a hefty domestic load which is a stress in relationship A and seek refuge from that in relationship B, without making an effort to address the stresses in relationship A.