I don't know, this all seems a bit flimsy to me some how. Like you are trying too hard or something. What it sounds like to me is that you are a bunch of friends that had sex and are now trying to create something out of it that doesn't necessarily exsist. Correct me if I'm wrong on that. Maybe I'm just missing something. Perhaps it would be better to give it all some space and time.
Btw, no I don't think you are lucky that selene likes women, ie you, more than her husband. I would be worried about that actually. To me its not about how many people I'm fucking or who likes me more, but the quality of the relationships I have and the trust that those I share my time with are valuing the connection they have with others. Especially when they are married. Just me though. And its worked well for me over the years. If I am in someway the focus for too long then I have come to relialize that the balance is off and there will be hell to pay if it isn't sorted out.
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