Originally Posted by Ariakas
That is definitely backwards.
It actually sounds like what he is talking about being a beta male in reality, knowing this and locking his tribe onto himself. By doing this he eliminates the actual alpha males due to a lack of choice "his" women have. He is alpha in his group, but really he isn't. This will come to bite him in his butt in the end I imagine
In one of the links I posted he does respond to questions like this. Apparently he really got ripped into by the poly community for his narrow minded view of poly. Look under comments on the poly perc site I think
Yeah, it sounds like they made their agreements around insecurities instead of love. If it works, good luck to them. I think it's a maladaptive way to go about relationships.