Thanks for that river and I'm not saying that it can't. I have actually found that in my own experience. But I do think it is something that needs to be looked at, especially with all the feedback I have received in this thread. Being Poly does not make us immune to cheating or avoidance.
Z (who isn't one for too much in-depth relationship thought) came up with the idea that he can't be with his other, emotionally or physically unless things are right with us first. That gives me a lot of reassurance that he wont take an escape route if there is something that is difficult going on with us that needs sorting.
Last edited by sage; 06-19-2010 at 11:35 PM.