Definitely talk and definitely take things slowly... I 'came out' as poly to my wife two years ago and after a lot of yelling, a lot of tears but most of all a lot of talking we're now in a position where we're going to give it a try and see how it goes... It certainly won't be easy (especially if the opportunity to play away comes up, as it did with me last year) but the most worthwhile things never are.
Best of luck with whatever course your life takes from here.
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