Originally Posted by redpepper
This means not creating something out of a rant or a vent too. I find it much more helpful, healthy and comfortable to let some stuff go when I receive communciation. Often times my partner is in the process of going through something, coming to terms with something or just blowing off steam. Its not always necessary to blow what they say out of proportion or become threatened. Often times its all in the moment and later when I ask how its going it isn't an issue any more, or much lessened.
I tend to be a venter. I need to let things out when they're bothering me and usually as soon as they are out I'm feeling better about things. I'm trying to remember when I am venting to let the recipient of the vent know in advance that I'm working through things by venting and it will make things better. I don't use nasty language or call names but I do cry a lot. Once it's done it's done though and I feel calm and open again.