Perhaps it would be helpful for you to work on developing healthy relationships in general and not worry about whether you're poly or mono? The advice is often given that you not add a relationship until the current one(s) you have is stable and healthy.
At this point in time it appears to me that your exploration of poly may be more about your ongoing issues with abandonment and intimacy and not so much about being able to love more than one person at a time. If you have a sponsor in your recovery process you might want to run this by them.
Last edited by dragonflysky; 06-17-2010 at 07:33 AM.