Derby, I am talking more along the lines of the one that is not struggling so much and is witnessing the "drama."
Drama is much needed so as to move forward and establish comfort in a relationship... it's valid and vital to the emotional health of a relationship and a tribe. I certainly have my fair share of causing drama, but when I am left to plug along figuring out what the fuck is going on for me, all the while knowing that my loves are there to talk and listen if needed then I will get through it. That usually takes them taking on the attitude I am talking about in my post. I need to know that they are taking me with a grain of salt in someway and letting the muddle sort itself out.
I get your point however.